When I used to dream of the guy I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, I always thought he would be this perfect fairy-tale guy. You know, the cheesy guy with a brilliant smile that would make me swoon. The macho guy who would beat the living daylights out of those who bother me. The endearingly insensitive idiot who would make me smile to myself. Well, now as I am typing out my once-upon-a-time fantasy, I can't help but feel nauseated.
Life happens and it turns you inside out. It teaches you that what you expect from someone or something is not even what you really need. It shows you ever so subtly in its bizarre ways that you need to persevere with it, to even deserve the bare minimum levels of happiness. Somehow that cheesy guy with the brilliant smile looks better in your nightmares. The nightmares you can laugh about when you share a couple of drinks with the girlfriends. The macho guy you dreamed of? Well, he was probably on steroids without which he is a stupid sissy. Somehow, all you can see in that idiot is his insensitivity and you can't help but laugh at yourself for falling for such a loser. So, life tells you that this fairy-tale you had in mind is absolute Grade I Bullshit.
After all that happens and your dreams go up in smoke and a helluva lot of Vodka, you realise that this crazy guy who you wanted to spend the rest of your life with, does exist! Only not in your life. You do come across such a guy. Only if you ever do, take my advice and steer clear of him. Life is too precious to be wasted on fairy-tale endings. Too cynical for you? Don't jump to those conclusions yet. Read on, dear friend.
Without even actively thinking about it, expectations change. You don't need to make these vows and resolutions that you will not fall for the next guy who sweeps you off your feet. When the perfect guy comes along, he won't even make an effort to do so. He would just present himself to you wrapped in nothing but brown paper. None of the fancy stuff for you, from this guy. Just himself and that dry wit. The type that will make you laugh and just feel good. When you are drowning in all the little worries in your life and he says that you will be fine, even if he truly doesn't know what he is talking about and you believe him because that is all you wanted to hear, you smile. A smile that will last forever because he wants it to. It will tug at your heart, when he is upset about something. You will be sleepless all night wondering what is it that is so special about this seemingly ordinary guy that you light up when he gives you that dimpled smile when you least expect it. It is enough for you if he is around to shield you from anything remotely painful, no one needs to get beaten up because nothing bothers you. Insensitivity? What is that? That word is for the girls who did not know this guy.
Yes, I can say that I never dreamt of this guy. This guy who can make me laugh and feel good. Who can light me up without even realising it. Who can show all the care on earth and some more and make me feel like I am special. Who is so seemingly ordinary, yet out of this world with his extra-ordinary brilliance. I don't want to swoon, I don't want a line of poor beaten up guys behind me and I definitely don't want an idiot. He changed my expectations without me even realising it and by doing so, he surpassed all of those silly expectations. This is what he calls purr-fection and its what I call him.
Image Courtesy: Krishna Prakash
Life happens and it turns you inside out. It teaches you that what you expect from someone or something is not even what you really need. It shows you ever so subtly in its bizarre ways that you need to persevere with it, to even deserve the bare minimum levels of happiness. Somehow that cheesy guy with the brilliant smile looks better in your nightmares. The nightmares you can laugh about when you share a couple of drinks with the girlfriends. The macho guy you dreamed of? Well, he was probably on steroids without which he is a stupid sissy. Somehow, all you can see in that idiot is his insensitivity and you can't help but laugh at yourself for falling for such a loser. So, life tells you that this fairy-tale you had in mind is absolute Grade I Bullshit.
After all that happens and your dreams go up in smoke and a helluva lot of Vodka, you realise that this crazy guy who you wanted to spend the rest of your life with, does exist! Only not in your life. You do come across such a guy. Only if you ever do, take my advice and steer clear of him. Life is too precious to be wasted on fairy-tale endings. Too cynical for you? Don't jump to those conclusions yet. Read on, dear friend.
Without even actively thinking about it, expectations change. You don't need to make these vows and resolutions that you will not fall for the next guy who sweeps you off your feet. When the perfect guy comes along, he won't even make an effort to do so. He would just present himself to you wrapped in nothing but brown paper. None of the fancy stuff for you, from this guy. Just himself and that dry wit. The type that will make you laugh and just feel good. When you are drowning in all the little worries in your life and he says that you will be fine, even if he truly doesn't know what he is talking about and you believe him because that is all you wanted to hear, you smile. A smile that will last forever because he wants it to. It will tug at your heart, when he is upset about something. You will be sleepless all night wondering what is it that is so special about this seemingly ordinary guy that you light up when he gives you that dimpled smile when you least expect it. It is enough for you if he is around to shield you from anything remotely painful, no one needs to get beaten up because nothing bothers you. Insensitivity? What is that? That word is for the girls who did not know this guy.
Yes, I can say that I never dreamt of this guy. This guy who can make me laugh and feel good. Who can light me up without even realising it. Who can show all the care on earth and some more and make me feel like I am special. Who is so seemingly ordinary, yet out of this world with his extra-ordinary brilliance. I don't want to swoon, I don't want a line of poor beaten up guys behind me and I definitely don't want an idiot. He changed my expectations without me even realising it and by doing so, he surpassed all of those silly expectations. This is what he calls purr-fection and its what I call him.
Image Courtesy: Krishna Prakash
15 comments:
:) :) :)
Made me smile in 1000 different ways :)
It is great to see you purr-fectly happy :)
Thank you so much Lena. As always, you are the first to comment and feel happy for me. :)
Nice post..Simple but 200% true and pretty much what happened in my life too gal.. :)Have a great life ahead :)
Very Practical... and made smile come on my lips instantaneously... well im a fellow blogger and happened to read ur blog.. and felt like leaving a comment..
Sudeep.
Truly loved the post. To tell you the truth, these are the exact things I was once told. Made me relive it. Thanks for writing. The best post I have read in this month!
okay I was just searching some random blogs and stumbled upon this.. awesome... have to go and read more of your blogs I guess.. :)
Keep up the good work!!
I guess I have been to your blog a long while back, nice post this :)
glad to see u happy :)...hope u r doing fine n having fun..happy new yr..
Wht crap!
haha.. thts true.. idealism is fantasy.. compromise is reality..
hey akila how ru ?? checking ur blog after long time...
sounds like reality...sounds like happiness.. sounds like love.
Wishing you joy :)
A really nice post, very well-put in simple words :)
awesome! reading your blog for the first time...i love the way you write about simple and practical things...I wish u al da very best....
Could totally relate to much of what you've written, from the perspective of the other gender.
I am a complete sucker to the belief that when that purr-fect girl comes across, I'll surely go weak in my knees.
Write on!!!
nicely penned :)
was nodding in agreement all through..
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