"I am not able to get over the fact that you were with another girl. It hurts. I know you love me and I know that we were not together when that happened. But, you left me for her. You thought that someone meant more to you than me. You did things that I would have liked you to do for me, but she was at the receiving end of it. You whispered those three words in to the night to her, while I spent those nights looking at shooting stars wishing for you. You have wiped away her tears while mine just flowed as they always have. You have told me thats she was there for you when you needed her while I stood there aghast at the shock of it all.
I tried to change my life upside down just so you would be comfortable, it was astonishing to know that she did not have to do anything at all. She was perfect for you? I was a loser. I was holding the phone to my ear that night and hanging on to it like it was a lifeline long after you hung up telling me that you did not need me anymore. When all of that happened to me you were basking in the happiness of new found love.
Yet, today you say that you love me. That you have always loved me. That you have never known what it is to be loved until you met me. That what you had with her was a sham. That she did not match up to me. Is that supposed to make me feel better? What I see now is an experiment gone bad. An experiment run at the risk of breaking my heart. It could have healed if you had wanted it to heal. You have played not with one but two women here. One who believed that you were everything for her and the other one who wanted to give you everything.
There you stand alone, having broken two hearts but still feeling sorry for yourself. No care but for yourself. You are the victim we are the perpetrators.
I am sorry."
Why are men so confused?
Why is it difficult for them to understand that we have needs too?
I don't mean this post in a men-bashing kinda way. I like men. I have had wonderful examples of men in my life. This incident really shook me. Left me wondering, why?
I tried to change my life upside down just so you would be comfortable, it was astonishing to know that she did not have to do anything at all. She was perfect for you? I was a loser. I was holding the phone to my ear that night and hanging on to it like it was a lifeline long after you hung up telling me that you did not need me anymore. When all of that happened to me you were basking in the happiness of new found love.
Yet, today you say that you love me. That you have always loved me. That you have never known what it is to be loved until you met me. That what you had with her was a sham. That she did not match up to me. Is that supposed to make me feel better? What I see now is an experiment gone bad. An experiment run at the risk of breaking my heart. It could have healed if you had wanted it to heal. You have played not with one but two women here. One who believed that you were everything for her and the other one who wanted to give you everything.
There you stand alone, having broken two hearts but still feeling sorry for yourself. No care but for yourself. You are the victim we are the perpetrators.
I am sorry."
Why are men so confused?
Why is it difficult for them to understand that we have needs too?
I don't mean this post in a men-bashing kinda way. I like men. I have had wonderful examples of men in my life. This incident really shook me. Left me wondering, why?
P.S: Something I wrote as an adaptation of a story thats true.
28 comments:
That's called thoda hain, thoda aur ki zaroorat hain until neither of those remain.
Confusion... or just going with the flow.. taking things for granted, of sorts.
well sometimes life is like that...well i have incidents too which i share as stories..and really its just about living on for me :)
Sometimes women do it too. Not just men.
@j
i agree with the taking things for granted bit!
@maverick
yeah it sure is!
@ps
yes women do it too. but, why?
Is this a true incident? I hope not BC.
Well some men and women do this kinda thing cos they easily give into raging hormones. :) As simple as that.
It takes alot more courage and guts than that to stay committed.
Keshi.
Been there done that. Been to jaded to take a risk anymore. I just live with thoughts - 'shit happens' and 'this too will pass'.Easier to handle anything that way.
sometimes gals are that confused too! well i am most of the time...
good narration da!
to ur question " but why?"
coz human's mind is a monkey...
if not for all these its not worth it.
hello..we are not confused [as thought by girls]..its just that when we like some one we are sincere to them but at the same time we dont hesitate to help or appr other girls!!!...:)...
Fuck!
This is just my story...well, almost!
:(
I just don't understand it either...
:(
I just don't understand... how they dnt see that our emotions exist too.
darn!
same question i ask myself a lot often...honestly :(
i havent found the answer abhi tak...
i wish women had brains to think.
@Keshi
yes thats a true incident dear girl! sad, don you think??
yeah fallin in love is easy keeping it is what really matters!
@tia
totally true!!
@raz
yeah confusion in normal but not at the cost of breakin hearts don u think??
thanks pa!
@brocasarea
i told u its not a post abt men or women or the one where i take sides i was talking abt the story in particular!
@mez
oh dear! come one mez cheer up! i don like someone being so sad on my blog cos of my post!
@veens
so i guess no one understands this exactly!! :O
@vandita
chal chod yaar! abhi tak kisis ko bhi patha nahi! :(
@raknahs
i wish you had enough brains to read whats the post all abt including the but i wrote at the end! *rolling eyes*
once again its proved. ...
this one was a little too close to home for me. but honestly, i agree with maverick. sometimes life is like that. but you always find a way to move on.
@raknahs
lol! that you don have any?? yes proven thanks!
@bubbles
thats all we can do! :)
seem like you have copied every thing. even what i say..is this blog genuine?..ha ha ha
@raknahS
what are you a blog stalker?? get a life dude!
Reminds me of a true story I know of.Today he is married to a third woman.Clever isn't he?
Truly,such jerks should be castrated ;)
But I also know that there are guys who are gems and that there are women who are so confused and are big time two-timers.
Sigh!That's life!
lol sameera! ur comment is out of this world! he he!
and how could he?bah!!
well yeah thats life!
Hmmm..didnt comment coz me too clueless as hw can guys do so :(
nevertheless...u know wt u inspired to write somethng similar sorts..hve been scribbling somethng in my diary dnt knw for sure whn il publish still needs a touch lets c hw the final thngs surfaces
hugs n lodsa love :-*
oh so you are gonna write too! yayyy!
come on publish it mads!
hugs bk!
love ya!
well its something like a broken vase, throw away the pieces and get a new one :), or like we move on from an ill fitting shoe to a pair of comfortable flip flops!
i don't think i'm making sense at 3 am in the morning.. well anyways nice blurb.
very true..same has happened wid me dear..feels lyk ending maself.. how did i even believed him..but its lyf..n lyf is nothing but being patient..
hey akhila..m a great fan of ur blog..i alwayz keep maself updated wid ur posts:)...thnx alott..weneva i read ur posts it just gives me so solace n courage..n i feel evry post of u is someway related 2 ma lyf...thnx alott dear...keep goin...
expectations expectations expectations!
Every little aspect of life, from the taste of coffee, to the taste of your lover, to the taste of success, to the taste of death, come with a probability of not being the way you expected it to be, of changing from the ideal at the very moment you least expect it to.
That probability is so small that we tend to push it into obscurity, convincing ourselves that it is in fact impossible for that to happen. We will even pull up examples from the past, from history, from our friends, that the small probability is next to impossible. What we refuse to do is to pull out the examples from the past and from history that have proven time and again that the smallest probability can become reality.
Nothing is impossible. And the day that impossible thing happens, it comes as a surprise, shattering our beliefs, and emptying our pot of joy.
The day we blend this fact into our breath and our heartbeat, we will be much at peace with our lives, every facet of life (family, friends, profession etc) will become less of a challenge.
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